7 Strategies to Help Teens Deal with Family Stress

Practical Tools for Teens to Manage Stress and Build Resilience

Stress in families feels inevitable, but for teenagers caught in the middle of it, the weight can feel overwhelming. Every family, no matter how close or well-adjusted, goes through seasons of high stress and tension. Whether it be an issue with job security or parental illness, conflict between siblings, or the daily mundanity of school grinds and busy schedules. For adolescence, the pressure and stress that one feels can seem exemplified as they navigate other complications like self-identity, friendships, and the act of growing up. Without the proper coping mechanisms, stress can express itself in harmful tendencies, such as withdrawal, anxiety, or poor behavior.

But there is good news: teens can be equipped with practical, creative outlets that help them internalize and process family stress. In this article, we’ll discuss the different ways in which teens can help deal with internalizing family stress, as well as discuss different media varieties and practices that might help them learn constructive behavior. Firstly, though, we want to diagnose some of the causes behind family stress and the importance of finding helpful outlets.

Understanding Family Stress: The View of the Teen

Family stress can take on many different forms and varieties, and for teenagers, it can even be more exacerbated than they are. Some stressors can be dramatic and life-altering, but even quieter modes, such as arguments or expectations, can still be quite harmful. These experiences get magnified by teenagers developing emotional maturity.

Due to the difference in how teenagers respond to stress, it can sometimes be difficult for a parent to gauge the effects of family stress on their child. Some may become more withdrawn, exhibiting signs of detachment, while others might simply stop caring about things or lash out. To notice any signs, watch for a slip in academic performance, ability to sleep, or even physical signals like fatigue or headaches. It is also important to monitor their relationships with others as well as any unhealthy practices. By recognizing these signs or patterns, it becomes easier to diagnose. Thus, it becomes easier to find creative outlets and coping mechanisms to help teens deal with family stress.

Practical Outlets and Strategies for Teens

Music can help with depression, stress, and anxiety.

Music

Music therapy has long been recognized as a powerful, practical outlet in which variety remains high. There are a lot of options out there, and your teens might be able to find comfort in something, even the most picky. Music has a scientific foundation in releasing relaxing-inducing hormones like serotonin, which help ease those who are highly stressed. Unlike some of the other outlets that will be discussed, music is free and abundant, making it both a highly effective and resourceful tool to reduce teen stress.

Some of the most effective ways to use music to help are:

  • Listen to calming and/or uplifting playlists
  • Learning an instrument or singing
  • Dance/movement expression to rhythm
Physical activity has a lot more benefits than simply reducing anxiety.

Physical Activity

 Physical activities have been shown to have a significant role in improving a multitude of mental health deficiencies, such as relieving stress and aiding with depression. Scientific studies show that physical activity increases endorphin levels and decreases cortisol levels, which ultimately helps to make one feel better. Not only does this help reduce stress, but it also has a wide array of health benefits. Some examples of practical physical activities can include:

  • Working out on a consistent basis (whether going to the gym or just doing simple exercises at home)
  • Running/jogging in the morning
  • Team sports, such as basketball, soccer, etc.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness practices like yoga and meditation can help teens slow down and reconnect with themselves when stress makes them feel terrible. It is a practice that does not even require too much time to help someone out--simply spending a five-minute period of deep breathing and relaxation helps to lower physical tension or racing thoughts. These body regulation practices can help reduce emotional impulsiveness, allowing teens to give a more thoughtful response to stress-inducing causes. These mindfulness practices can include:

A Social Network

             The most important time for developing strong social skills is during adolescence. However, speaking to friends, parents, and trusted individuals is not just useful for developing those skills, but also has practical uses for helping to relieve stress in teens. Social outlets offer new perspectives and challenge the views the teens might have had before. You might be wondering how it is that your teens can do that without your direct involvement. The truth is much simpler than you might fear. You could:

  • Encourage them to join extracurriculars they enjoy (a great way to meet trusted individuals to relate to).
  • Setting boundaries on social media.
  • Talking to teachers or even trusted individuals about potential concerns.

It may seem intimidating at first, but talking through problems is always the best way to resolve them. And sometimes the most direct solution is the best solution.

Journaling is a good way to vent without hurting anyone’s feelings.

Journaling and Writing

             Of course, this one is a bit more niche than some of the others, but journaling thoughts is a great way to relieve stress and tension in your teen. Encourage them to spend, say, ten minutes a day writing down any frustrations they might have endured. Oftentimes, venting is something that is needed. But not always will there be someone available to vent to, nor will there always be someone who allows you to vent without taking offense. Journaling will also allow negative emotions to not be built up, but to be released in a way that is not harmful to anyone. And the record will always be there for the teens to reflect on and potentially see problems with, escaping any dreadful errors or misunderstandings. A journal is a private tool between the individual and themselves and their thoughts. The privacy of the individual should always be respected.

Art is a great way to relieve stress.

Art and Visual Expression

             Sometimes your teen might feel more expressive, not through words, but through some form of visual depiction. Of course, this one is more niche as well, but if this is the case, then providing a sketchbook or some medium through which they can channel visual expression might be helpful in relieving tension in your teen’s life. This form presents a different sense of control, as the individual decides what to create and how to frame it. Over time, art therapy builds confidence and helps to offer a constructive way to transform stress into creativity. Some examples of visual expressions through art are:

  • Photography
  • Drawing, painting, or sketching
  • Collaging, scrapbooking, or mood boards

Community Work

Sometimes, the best way to relieve your stress or help aid your mental health also coincides with genuine work that helps others- volunteering. Stress on the surface can make one feel powerless, but by flipping that dynamic into something such as community work, it now imbues those with a sense of purpose. Service may also provide those with perspective and understanding of how incredibly lucky they are. Once this idea is understood, it may help them realize that family stress is not something to feel insecure about. Of course, the other benefits also share the idea of increasing that social network, as mentioned before. To learn more about opportunities near you, visit Idealist.

Healthy Lifestyle

            Sometimes, one of the best things you can do to deal with stress is simply to reflect on the lifestyle that you have. Now, this won’t always be effective, but it is worth a look. Caring for the body is caring for the mind, and reflecting on things like:

  • Am I getting enough water (hydration)?
  • Am I getting enough sleep?
  • Am I eating properly?

While stress might block these things from happening, it is still important to make sure that these questions are consistently being asked. There are times when the possible solution is just one you might have overlooked. Improving all of these aspects can help with emotional growth, maturity, and even conflict resolution in a household. Good health is like a box that limits how much stress can increase.

Everyone’s experiences are their own. Sometimes it is best to visit someone in person.

Talk to a Professional

            Not every challenge can (or should) be managed alone. Sometimes the healthiest outlet is reaching out to a professional who is trained to help. Whether it’s a school counselor, therapist, or even a doctor/psychiatrist, these conversations give teens tools they may not find anywhere else. Even more importantly, reaching out to a professional normalizes the idea that mental health deserves just as much care as physical health. By building this habit early, teens learn that support is available and that resilience often comes from connection, not isolation.

It is Okay Not to be Okay.

Family stress is something no adolescent can completely avoid, but it doesn’t have to overwhelm them. By building a toolbox of outlets, teens gain the skills to process challenges rather than be defined by them. These strategies work best when they are practiced in calmer seasons, so that when turbulence inevitably comes, they already feel natural and accessible.

Supporting teens in cultivating these outlets is an investment in their future. It gives them a sense of agency, shows them that their emotions have valid places to land, and reminds them that help is always within reach. With the right tools, family stress becomes not just something to endure, but an opportunity for growth, resilience, and deeper self-understanding.

 

 

Written by  
Jayden Baysore
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Reviewed by Allison B.  
Jayden Baysore
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